Helpful or Not

Yes I can NOT always explain what’s implied in every post (which I guess can also be infinite..),
Yet as for advice,
As long as it’s not given in excess,
While given and received from a place of kindness and/or empathy,
It’ll probably have a better effect on me than as compared to deeply critical advice that leaves me feeling more criticized and/or therefore feeling worse than receiving the advice prior,

So yes (for example),
If someone wants to tell me what he feels I need to hear,
I want to make clear that (for example),
How I hear what the man has to tell,
Will have an additional effect on me,
That either increases the chances of me functioning clearer and stronger,
The same,
Or worse and shut down,

So I just thought I’d add this for additional emphasis pertaining to how we’re likely emotionally affecting ourselves,
By what we give and receive from others,
Which of course includes what we tell ourselves,

So (for example),
If I’m internally scolding myself,
Would that increase internal negative tension that inhibits any internal capability that underlies any action or set of actions on the surface..?
Yet if I’m kindly encouraging myself,
Will I be less inhibited and therefore more likely function with a much higher needed skill level..?

So as for identifying my flaws,
How is what I tell myself in response (to my actions) truly affecting me..?

I’m not sure if I’m explaining this as clearly as I can (and yes I guess I can always explain anything clearer..(?)),
Yet essentially,
Since I believe that what I tell myself I most likely tell others,
Therefore,
The more I develop clear internal peace,
For one,
I’ll (as I’d guess..(?)) be less weighed down by internal tension,
Yet since I’d be feeling more clear and peaceful,
Any forms of criticism that I may feel a need to tell myself (including others),
I would guess..,
Would feel more kind,
encouraging and/or helpful,
As opposed to being a straight up toxic asshole,

Right?

And of course I feel this is all easier said,
Yet I’ll stay strong,
For as long as I can,
As usual